She's a complete wild child and free spirit, until you discover she was saving herself-for you.
Red Flags: Longing gazes at wedding-dress magazines, a season pass for TLC's A Wedding Story on her Ti Vo, or hours and hours of inane wedding talk while on the phone with her friends all signify you've got a future Bridezilla just dying to get behind the veil. Suggest a ménage à trois-or float the idea of an open relationship.
Make sure you tell her it's your life goal to "experience" many people. Then she's slipping her hands into your pockets-and reaching for your wallet.
Red Flags: Watch out for her slick attempts to sneak a peek at your shirt label, uncontrollable sneers at generic brands, and a fondness for ordering twin lobster tails when you're getting the lobster bisque. Snag a discarded ATM receipt with an especially low balance the next time you're getting cash and leave it in plain sight for her to find.
Two or more, however, and you have a definite problem on your hands. Red Flags: If she orders weird drinks, looks uncomfortable at the bar, or spends most of her time hiding behind her purse on the stool, you've got a girl who can't wait to give up the nightlife.
Exit Strategy: Cut her off as abruptly and as ruthlessly as possible. A slower breakaway will only leave her thinking you belong together . Exit Strategy: Hit the bars hard until she can't take it anymore. Be sure to tell her how much you appreciate the fact that she's comfortable being plain-and that you're glad she doesn't care about her looks.
He will reveal a few of his indiscretions and weaknesses so you feel safe being open and honest with him.
He wants to get to know you alright, just not for the reason you think.
Red Flags: One "accidental" case of bumping into you midweek is fine; she could really just be in the neighborhood. She's all cleavage and legs until you get together-then just try to pull her out of that damned sweats-and-ponytail combo.How many red flags do you need in order to run away and save yourself? Time will tell, his mask will drop, that is why he is pushing for commitment, he wants to hook you before you see the real person under the facade. By themselves they don’t scream “Run for cover” , especially if you have no experience with a narcissist, but if you have half a dozen of these red flags you need to run away as fast as you can and if you can’t bring yourself to dump him because you think he is an exception to the rule and you don’t believe me; at least slow things down.I am sorry if your car is fucked-up or your dog is sick, but I don’t need the valuable thought-space in my mind-mind filled with the same white noise we all experience daily.4) You’re a shameless self-promoter In fairness, many of my friends shamelessly self-promote.